Not only must you adjust to ending your marriage, but your shared children must navigate the change, too. How do you help your children make the transition with ease?
WebMD shares tips for helping kids cope with divorce. Learn how to do your part to help your shared children live healthy, elevated post-divorce lives.
Refrain from using your kids as therapists
Right now, you may feel you do not have many people to talk to or confide in about ending your marriage. Try not to bring up money matters or emotional issues regarding your ex-spouse with your children. If you must discuss such matters, rely on a professional, such as a mental health specialist. You may also confide in friends and family.
Watch what you say around your children
If you harbor negative feelings about your former partner and marriage, try not to speak ill of either where your children may hear. Your kids come from both you and the other parent, and hearing you speak ill of the other parent could make them feel poorly about themselves.
Do not use your kids as spies
You may wonder about the other parent’s dating situation or her or his post-divorce life. Try not to grill your kids about your ex-spouse or the people she or he dates. If you must engage in this line of questioning, keep your inquiries focused on your kids and their time with the other parent.
Divorced parents sometimes feel extreme guilt over putting their children through a divorce. If this mirrors your experience, try not to make up for how you feel by showering your children with gifts or special favors. Consistency and routines often benefit children of divorce better.
You deserve to know how to insulate your shared children against divorce’s effects. Getting the facts on the matter helps all parties involved.